Today is Day 1 of the 30 Days to Less Stuff and More Life Challenge. If you want to jump in, go get the book at Amazon, Simple Living – 30 days to less stuff and more life.
We start with dreams. Not the kind where you are standing in front of an audience not fully clothed. This is totally family friendly.
Lorilee makes a valid point in that “you can’t get to the destination if you don’t know where you’re going.” I have been struggling recently with this very thought. Where do I want to go? How much of what I do is based on what I think other people think I should do? I put that extra “I think” in there because I imagine most people don’t think much about me at all. My fear of anyone’s disapproval is mostly in my head.
Therein lies the basic problem with my life. Am I living the life God wants me to live or am I living the life I think is expected of me? Who am I trying to please? Just for the record, I don’t think I should be the center of my universe. Jesus Christ should be who I ultimately aim to emulate. Then, I have a husband and children who are my next priority. Other family and friends should come in a distant third. Even my job, though it is necessary to support my family, should not overshadow my thoughts or priorities.
Surely jobs, extended family, friends, and other activities all have a valid place in everyone’s life. They are important for many reasons, but I truly believe the immediate family unit must be first. And if that means slashing overbooked schedules, so be it. But we’re not there yet. We’re still dreaming.
The Dreams chapter asks eight basic questions covering home, schedule, health, priorities, etc. Without giving too much of the book away, here are my answers to a few of them:
- I want a comfortable house (with storage). Four bedrooms would be ideal. Two living areas would give us room to spread out some. A dining area big enough for our big ol’ family is a must. I don’t want it to be monsterously big because if it’s laid out well, there shouldn’t be any wasted space. Otherwise, I want a very basic house. No high-end anything or ginormous yard to landscape. I want to enjoy our house, not spend my life taking care of it.
- In a family with five children, three (almost four) of them school-age, my schedule is not my own. However, I would like to get to the point where we have one entire day and evening with no outside activities. A day where my husband and I can be together and we can enjoy life as a family. A whole weekend would be like heaven.
- My family is most important to me, hands down. At the end of life, I won’t care what degrees I have or how many computers I installed or even how many years of homeschooling I did. I will care if I’m still married to the love of my life and if my children are godly, successful adults with families of their own.
Many of my answers may be counter-cultural. I have an MBA, but I really don’t care about making a six-figure salary. I want a bigger house for us to all have a reasonable amount of personal space, but I don’t believe everyone needs a private bedroom. I need very little “me” time if I have enough “us” time spent enjoying each other. I don’t care if I ever have 15 minutes of fame as long as I’ve made a difference in the lives of real people whose face I know. I want to be the same me whether anyone is watching or not.
So, now it’s your turn. What are your dreams? What would you change if you could? Do you have an ideal something you want to work toward? It’s time to take control of your life if you want to go someplace different than where you’re heading now.